Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Public or Private

Our blog was once public, then Oliver wanted it to be private, then I wanted it to be public and I'm sure we'll have the same back and forth hundreds more times. Currently it's public and I prefer it that way. I like that I end up at the top of people's blog rolls when I have posted recently so that my blog actually gets read (kind of self-serving but whatever). I like that people that don't know how to log into a private blog can now read mine - like my parents, etc. I also like that people don't have to ask to view my blog, they don't have to have a gmail account, and they can just read when they want.

I don't like the Chinese character comments though. Do you know what I'm talking about? What is up with random people commenting on my blog? And I have a few OCD issues in my life so every time I get a Chinese character comment I delete it (I cannot verify that they are actually Chinese characters but my sister can correct me if they are/aren't 'cause she's fluent). But do you know what bugs me about deleting these comments - they still add into the total comment tally - and they aren't real comments. If I could change the number of comments and delete them you bet I would! Anyway, returning to my original thoughts...

I read a post yesterday of a friend requesting that everyone remove her family's last name from their blog roll and it was a huge AHA moment. And so, out of respect for her privacy, and all my other friends who go back and forth and public/private, I am removing everyone's last name from my blog roll. Because, well, I'm OCD, and it's all or nothing for me!

I also hate reading private blogs. I understand the need for privacy, protecting your kids, going through divorce, etc. The part of it that I hate is that it doesn't come up on my blog roll when it's been updated. And since I have OCD, I click on each private link EVERY SINGLE DAY to see if it has been updated. It used to be a good use of my time when only one or two people had private blogs but now I read 14 private blogs! I probably should get over my issue - but I find it really annoying when people with private blogs only update once every 6 or 8 weeks - because by then I have clicked on your blog, typed in my username and password, and waited to be re-directed more than 50 times!

Yes, I know I have issues and maybe I'll re-title this post OCD. Thanks.

8 comments:

The Wilsons said...

Maybe change it so that you have to moderate comments? I never have funny comments on mine and that is what I do. Yeah, I like mine public too and get irritated checking on blogs that are private, time waster!

Michelle said...

Stay public! I hate logging in. Also, if you don't want it out there, don't put it out there. You know? I hate logging in just to leave a comment.

Nicole said...

So should I tell you now that I made mine private? If you send me your email address I'll give you yet another one to add to your private list. I update mine about once a week, because I have to keep my in-laws updated. And if it's been longer than a week I give you permission to yell at me. :) I do love your blog though... I love your opinions. So if you did go "private" then please let me know!

p.e. said...

Sorry you don't like private and don't like people who don't update it frequently. I fit both categories. I am not a blogger in general and don't prefer to put my thoughts, happenings and opinions publically. Something about my private personality. If you want to know more about how I am doing. . . call me. I don't have the time (and lets be honest, motivation) to update it at work or unlimited use of the internet at home. Sorry. . . happy reading!

TysonandMarthaGerber said...

I like public blogs! You have my support..Martha

* { Shannon } * said...

I HAD to make my blog private because Tyler is being such a major creeper! As soon as the divorce is final (like in 80 years) I am going public again :)

Tiana Smith said...

I hate private blogs, and because I have to request access and all that, I usually just let them fall off my radar and never read them.

I leave the comments wide open on my blog for anonymous users even, but I haven't had any problems or spam. I'd say comment moderation is your best bet if you're having a problem with it.

Royalty Boutique said...

I am sorry you don't like private blogs, or people that don't keep up with updating... I am bad, or good at both. But so you know, when I update, I put it on FB. Does that help??
~Erin