Thursday, June 17, 2010

Proud Married Moment

I went to my 33 week check-up and left feeling a little discouraged. For a couple of different reasons, one of which is because of the number on the dreaded scale. I went home feeling fat and a little depressed about it.

*Blah, blah, blah is what I hear when people say things like - you're pregnant, you're supposed to gain weight, it's healthy for the baby, just eat well, there's nothing you can do it about it until the baby comes, don't worry about it, you look great - blah, blah, blah. Maybe I'm not like other pregnant women - but that stuff doesn't make me feel any better and it doesn't change anything.

The conversation with Oliver went like this:

Heidi: I have never been this heavy in my whole life.
Oliver: How much do you weigh?
Heidi: (responds)
Oliver: HOLY COW!
Primary Result: Heidi in tears.
Secondary Result: Oliver attempts damage control and back pedaling.
Final Result: The hole he was digging just kept getting deeper, we laughed, and decided to just move-on and leave it alone.

Yep, probably not his best choice of words and his facial expression of shock wasn't that helpful either.

Luckily, I married my best friend and I know that he loves me and thinks I'm beautiful. Also, I know how he meant it and what he was trying to say - it just didn't come out so well.

Hopefully his skills continue to develop and improve as the years go on...

6 comments:

Desiree said...

I didn't tell anyone how much I weighed while I was pregnant until AFTER Easton was born. I remember one night Kendrick said, 'that I didn't GAIN that much while I was pregnant so why was I so obsessed over it?' Then I told him what I weighed the day I delivered...
I wish I had had a camera with me to record the look on his face. But then again, I will NEVER forget the look on his face. Men have no tact.

Angela said...

Just think, you'll be able to look back at this and laugh because you know your honey and what he was trying to do/say! I've told some people that I can't wait to be pregnant and a mom, but at the same time, I know it's going to be so hard for me because of the weight! Laugh and know you are amazing!!! I miss ya!

Charity said...

Blah blah blah and all that stuff that's hard to believe/absorb. If it makes you feel any better (which I'm sure it won't at the moment), it's totally worth it. Glad you can have a laugh about it, though :)

kwilter said...

Heidi! You are so funny! I was laughing while I was reading this. I'm glad you didn't take Oliver's reaction too personally. Men just don't get it!

Deidre said...

Yeah, I just didn't look at the scale with David. I kinda of knew but lived the sweet lie. Well when I went in for my induction they needed to know my weight, I said I didn't know. The lady was shocked...looked it up in my chart then TOLD ME. Idiot. At nine months pregnant that wasn't pretty. Down right shocking. I almost cried in front of her. And I gained ten more pounds than that with with Will. Oliver probably said holy cow because he just sees you being pregnant and didn't realize the weight gain we have to bring these kids into the world! You poor thing. It is totally normal to feel how you are feeling.

Pinkie and Family said...

oh my love I know the feeling- it takes 9 months to gain it and it'll take awhile to lose it. when i had Mads i didn't want any pictures and now i regret it horribly. just keep telling yourself you are doing the most important work of woman and bringing home a human gift from God. i'm struggling now (there's cake in my fridge :) but i just keep telling myself 'go easy on yourself'.