Monday, January 7, 2013

Perfectly Nice Innocent Lady

At the end of our meetings yesterday at church the lovely 70+ year old lady sitting next to me said, "Heidi, have a wonderful week, being a mother is just wonderful and fun."

To which, without missing a beat, I replied, "It must look rosy from where you sit looking back in time because I wake up some mornings and think SERIOUSLY - this again?"

Her facial reply said enough - shocked at my cynicism and candor.  I may have overstepped just a little.  I think she was looking for a more "oh, thanks so much, it is just wonderful".

She kindly replied, "Well I currently love being a grandma and you have to be a mom first - so you'll make it through."   Then she got up and left. 

Then, the perfectly nice woman next to her came over to me and said, "I think there is truth to what you said but you'll make it."

I probably should learn to keep my mouth shut and I do love being a mom and it's a blessing, etc.  But there are times when I am cynical and frustrated and tired and discouraged and I wish that other moms would be okay with that response too. 

However,the next time a nice lately at church tells me how cute my kids are and how fun it is I will probably reply "thanks" and be on my way. 

4 comments:

Kendrick and Desiree said...

Coming from the foot in the mouth queen: I love honest responses from people and yours was perfect! But I agree with the second lady, you will make it through this and you will look back on it (in the not too distant future) and probably be sad that it's over. I miss the baby/toddler phase so much that it sometimes makes me want to cry. You seem like such a stellar mom, that I am guessing you might feel the same way someday...
Don't worry about your response. It was probably refreshing for them to get an honest reply!

Elizabeth Plock said...

You made me laugh out loud! She just doesn't know you too well ;) I will say that the struggles don't go away, and become more important and harder than toddler tantrums, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. That's why we are women right? To partner up with Heavenly Father and take care of his children for him. I wouldnt trade the bad days for good days, but I definitely enjoy the good days more! Love you!!

Elizabeth Plock said...

You made me laugh out loud! She just doesn't know you too well ;) I will say that the struggles don't go away, and become more important and harder than toddler tantrums, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. That's why we are women right? To partner up with Heavenly Father and take care of his children for him. I wouldnt trade the bad days for good days, but I definitely enjoy the good days more! Love you!!

Miriam said...

It is hard! And I dislike people who make it seem easy and perfect. Its a lot of work and old people do forget what its like. You said it perfectly.